“What we've got here is, failure to communicate…some men, you just can't reach“
Captain
Prison Boss, Cool Hand LukeI agree with the first part.
A failure to communicate is the basis for all relationship breakdowns – in families, romantic relationships, at work – you name it. If it's not working out, it's because we can't find common ground.
But the second part I wonder about.
Is it that we just can't reach some people and that the failure is theirs, or have we, in fact, failed?
We may not be obliged to find a solution or be sufficiently motivated to do so. We might be happy with the status quo or simply rely on demanding compliance from others. But in the event that we have a responsibility to develop an organisation, finding and/or facilitating solutions is our job.
The old school way used to be, get in line or get out, do it or else. It was akin to Captain's solution in the 1967 movie Cool Hand Luke. Top-down autocratic leadership.
That might work for a while, but when the shit hits the fan, as it inevitably does at some point, the faultline in our communication capacity opens, and everyone falls in. The organisation, regardless of size, implodes.
A client asked me in a session recently – why can't people communicate? My answer was uncertainty and the associated fear. We are desperately afraid of that which we don't know. The bogeyman under your bed or the ghost in your closet.
Human beings don't like change because it has so many unknowns. We are pattern-recognition organisms. We love to form meaning and purpose from what we do and thrive on it. Through our faculties of perception, we literally make shape, colour, and form through our interpretation of the environment.
We rely on repetition and predictability, but reliance on these things is our downfall. We risk becoming rigid and immovable, and where there is a dramatic change, we batten down the hatches and become locked in.
Unless that is, leadership can create an environment where there is enough change to stimulate cooperation and creativity but not too much to create uncertainty and fear. Building that environment is difficult and might bring about more short-term pain than is wanted. That said, we must start.
Someone must be willing to bring everyone together and start the conversation. Make the space safe. Encourage honesty, not finger-pointing. Get it out there, warts and all. Find out where the dark spots are, turn a light on and bring these issues into the open. Because once they are seen, and once there is acceptance amongst all parties that we'll never get it perfect, there may be the chance to see everyone clearly and remove the fear around what is unknown.
Remind yourselves of your mission, your reason for being, and why you are here. Set your values, your philosophy, and those principles that are at your foundation. Open things up, and get talking.
If you do, you'll begin to remove the invisible barriers that prevent progress, incite doubt, and create division. Sometimes it takes a while. Sometimes we need to connect at a level beyond words, but without that conversation and an environment of safety, effective communication can't begin.
If leadership is anything, it is the facilitation of an environment where communication can happen.
Telkom University says
In your article “A Failure To Communicate,” you highlight the challenges of communication breakdowns in relationships, both personal and professional. You mention the fear of uncertainty as a significant factor. Could you elaborate on specific strategies or approaches leaders can adopt to create an environment that fosters effective communication while addressing the inherent fear of the unknown?
Telkom University
Larry G. Maguire says
Thanks for your question… Leaders must begin by being honest and forthright in their intentions here. Strategies should be put in place for the right reasons. In other words, there must be an emphasis put on creating and nurturing quality relationships, rather than coercing and manipulating people towards particular organisational outcomes. It comes down to trust – does leadership walk the walk, or are their efforts merely a marketing exercise? When leaders’ motivations are people oriented, the right action and behaviour will emerge. For example; taking feedback from staff and putting that feedback into action. Giving staff a platform where they can be open about their concerns and feelings of injustice and discrimination. Allowing diverse viewpoints and opinions on policy, for example, to be heard.